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Parents of questioning youth Page
| Chances are you've found this page by looking at a browser history, checking a favorites list or happened onto your child while he or she was surfing the web. If so, you're probably in a state of shock right now. You're feeling anger, fear, resentment, guilt and bewilderment. Your child is not gay because of anything you did or anything anyone else did. No one recruited your child, because no one could have. That's not how homosexuality arises, regardless of what has been said in the popular press. So please don't feel guilty or resentful. It's not necessary. Please understand that your child didn't come to this site for sexual minority teens looking for pornography or a good time; That's not what this page is for, and the content reflects that. Rather, this page was written for sexual minority teens (or those questioning their sexual orientation). If your child has bookmarked this site, it is probably because he or she is hurting and is in need of help, or has a friend who is in crisis. If this is the case, your help as a parent is needed in your child's life now more than ever. You'll need to approach your child in a manner of sincerely seeking to help rather than being angry or confrontational. We understand your fear and your anger, and there are two great sites you should check out. Please read them. Both have a great deal of help from parents who have been through what you're going through right now. It will help you understand your child better than you ever have imagined you could. They will answer a lot of questions you've had about your child that never made sense until now. What you'll discover is that the crisis you face at the moment can actually be a great opportunity for you. Also, there's a support group for parents like you (PFLAG), and its run by parents just like you. They have many hundreds of local chapters all over the world. We strongly urge you to contact them and attend a local meeting if you can. There are parents there who have been through what you're going through now, and can help you out in ways you can't imagine. It will be more than well worth your time; you'll make many great new friends and it may even save your family. Parents should also know that Kauai, as well as Maui, Oahu and the Big Island all have thriving GLBT communities which are generally accepting of everyone. Like most, the gay community here on Kauai is like a large extended second family. |
| Two wonderful web sites for parents of GLBT teens (or those questioning their sexuality) (Click on each to jump directly to their pages) |
| A Message for Parents because You Need Help Too.... |
| Still Need Help? If you have looked over these resources, and still have questions? If you would like to talk to a Lambda Aloha member on Kauai (we are untrained volunteers) but available to help if needed from 8 AM to 8 PM, call 332-5182 |
| Kauai is the only major island without a PFLAG local chapter. If you would like to start one, please contact Lambda Aloha. We would like to do anything we can to assist you. |
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